Yep, that's it, exactly. I do feel like I'm being respectful of your feelings.
I feel it to the bottom of my soul when I get that little pang of shame when I'm getting ready to nurse my kid.
I get it when I feel some anxiety when people walk by because I don't want them to feel uncomfortable.
I get it when I worry that it may cause an ill prepared parent to have to address breastfeeding with their child when they may not otherwise want to.
I get it when I see someones asshole pucker because they have their own underlying issues with breasts and breastfeeding, and perhaps their own history of sexual abuse.
I get it when I spent countless hours practicing at home and in front of mirrors so that I could minimize YOUR comfort level when the time came that I had to nurse in public.
I GET IT. But I simply ask that you show me the same respect by understanding what it takes to sit amidst an often hostile environment to feed my kid. I don't need your tips and quick brilliant ideas on how I can cover myself to make you more comfortable. Like I haven't already fucking thought to try that.
I love that whole, "Oh, you could cover up thing." My son will have none of that shit now -- he pulls the blankets off and cries if I try to hold it up. All I can do is pull my t-shirt over the boob as much as I feel the need and avoid looking anyone in the eye.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I wore a halter dress to a wedding this weekend, and all three D's of one boob was out on a balcony -- there was no better way to do it. The only person who said anything was a woman who smiled as I was reentered the reception area and said, "He doesn't have to wait in line to eat!" She seems totally nonplussed by the whole thing.